I know I promised “glitz and glamour” for this week’s post…
And I swear to you that I indeed had every intention of delivering and telling you all about how Madonna and Ricky Martin are my neighbors ( or something like that 🙂 )
But then I got inspired by something entirely different.
Adapting to life in New York City has proven to be quite an enormous adjustment, but becoming a ‘Manhattan mom’ has no doubt been the single hardest part of my entire journey.
And since the Mother’s Day flowers have long since wilted and the handmade cards are now stashed away, I want to use this post to empower some of the strongest mom’s that I have ever had the chance to meet.
Dear NYC Mommy,
In one of the hardest working areas of our country, remind yourself that when your husband works crazy hours: you also work just as hard in an attempt to raise a grounded family in the Big City.
Manhattan moms are often a bona fide single mom 5-6 days out of the week and because of that you are so much stronger than you realize!
That incredible strength that you possess is such a pivotal part of what holds your family together. Always give yourself an immense amount of credit for that!
And because of how hard you work don’t feel guilty if you ever find yourself – even if only for a moment – envying a nanny…
Either because she is dressed waaaaaay the heck better than you, or because she is getting paid top dollar to do what you do for free…
…Not just 5 days a week (like her), but 7 days a week…
…For what feels like might be the rest of your existence!
It’s because you have actually entertained the thought of what it might be like to HAVE a nanny…
For. Even. Just. One. Flippin. Hour!
Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us. You can rest assured that you will soon come to your senses and realize just how lucky you are to be there for every giggle, cuddle… and maybe even every tantrum.
Maaaaaybe. But if we are completely honest, probably not.
Please also realize, that you absolutely must not compare yourself to suburban mommies on Facebook and Pinterest. It’s not a fair comparison.
Let’s be real, their laundry rooms are the size of our living rooms! And the reason they have more kids than us is because they don’t have to physically wear them on their bodies for longer than the 9 months they are in the womb, while you physically wear your’s in the Ergo until they max out the weight limit (45lbs baby!)
And when it comes to food, don’t stress endlessly about making your family a gourmet and nutritious meal every night. When for you, it means having to lug every grocery bag from the store up to your apartment, only to risk the stove heating up your entire home to the point that your chocolate chips are melting in the cabinet and your eyebrows are perspiring!!
Embrace the takeout menu’s on your fridge and tell Pinterest to shove those unnecessary expectations you know where!
And of course while living in one of the fashion capitals of the world, we too often may find ourselves walking up and down Madison Avenue peering into the windows at some of the most glorious (and probably most expensive) pumps we have ever laid our eyes on.
While we will always be limited to flats – even on a date night…
Unless we are feeling SUPER courageous and opt for a wedge. Which we will know is a little ambitious so we secretly tuck a back-up pair in our purse. Just in case.
But I can assure you, flats don’t make you any less glamorous!
I know many suburban mommies that would KILL for the calf muscles you’ve acquired over the years walking up and down (…and up… and down…) those subway stairs.
So rock those instead!
And seriously, I swear to the Lord Almighty if one more of you tells me how you don’t work out! (insert overly dramatic sigh)
Believe me, you put in more man power and burn more calories bumping a stroller up and down the subway steps or by carrying your diaper bag, a gallon of milk, and your flailing toddler up a flight of stairs, than most people do on the elliptical 5 times a week!
You are a beast…
And lastly, realize that while we are unable to give our kids the latest and greatest toys (due to the lack of space needed to house all that madness!) we must remind ourselves that instead of toys, we give our children experiences.
If they want a toy that lights up in every color of the rainbow, we can take them to bask in the bright lights of Times Square.
If it’s music they want, then it’s a simple as stepping off the subway and listening to any of the given talented street performers – or maybe even Michael Buble’ if they are reeeeally lucky – who are entertaining the masses on the subway platform.
And God forbid they want to do a craft…
In that case, just talk some sense into them and take them to Central Park to play with Sarah Jessica Parker’s kids.
I don’t know about you, but I absolutely cannot risk getting glitter and glue in my apartment! 😉
New York City Mommy, what you do day in and day out is not for the faint of heart. What’s new and so often overwhelming to me, you have skillfully mastered. Watching you helps me realize that in time I will soon possess the strength that you have, and maybe even find myself someday providing the same amount of wisdom to someone else, that you have so greatly provided to me!
I sincerely have the utmost respect for you,